module 1

Warm up your Feminine Body, Awakening Your Subtle Sensations Meditation, Awakening your Erotic Field Meditation, Body Love Meditation

my experience

This week explores how definitions create reality and I found many of the questions about my experience of orgasm in the thorough interactive resources provided to be extremely confronting. In fact, I left numerous questions blank at the beginning because I felt triggered that my body was broken and I couldn’t connect with the answers.

During this module, I was introduced to the concept of EROS, which now means how alive I feel at any given moment. Instead of being something XXX, our erotic impulses are an essential part of our life-preserving instincts. When I approached the module worksheet again with this in mind, my answers changed, I became pleasure curious and my relationship with my pleasure became dynamic.

As I look back through all of the training I've completed, which has included re-visiting the Jade Egg Mastery course several times, I can say with confidence that the most radical moment in my journey was when I made the choice to end comparison and self reference the pleasure that I felt in my body.

The shaking and spinal warmups introduced in Module 1 continue to be a daily practice for me. The practices are foundational for resetting and choosing a calm nervous system. Additionally, the Body Love meditation taught me how to be kind to my body and treat myself well. I use parts of this wonderful meditation daily because it is constantly a challenge for me to love all my parts!

module 2

Introduce Kidney Breathing, Kidney Rejuvenation, and develop a Psycho-Sexual Map to create life-long libido

my experience

Growing up without emotional literacy or any way to experience emotions deeply in my body was disorienting, frustrating, and isolating. Without knowing it, I was moving through the world, parenting and relating to my loved ones, while subconsciously feeling confused, lost, and broken.

The Psycho-Sexual Map gave me a first glimpse into how my genitals are deeply connected to my emotions and my mind. This meditation is creative, practical, and makes developing interoceptive awareness easy to understand.

Due to numbness, I have had to ‘fake it til I make it’ by using my breath to bring my awareness to my vagina, learning to release and gradually squeeze my pelvic floor.

Over time, this new language of embodied emotions has helped me open to possibility every time I feel contraction in my body. I now know that my greatest pain can be transformed into my greatest source of power.

The kidney practices are introduced here because we often need to learn how to be gentle with ourselves. I learned that my adrenals need some loving attention before I can be sexual. Both of the kidney practices are easy to learn and helped me understand why it’s important to bring awareness to this essential part of the body and how to do so.

module 3

Conscious Choices are Sexy: Igniting Our Pelvic Breath, Enlivening Our Ovaries,
Beautifying Our Breasts

my experience

During Module 3, students complete the hormonal health practice, which has been a foundational movement practice for me over the last five years. It helps me feel grounded and open for my Jade Egg practice. Plus, it feels amazing and never gets old.

Listening to my erotic intelligence has meant that my yes’s and no’s are clear. Even understanding that I have a body ‘no’ and learning to slow down to listen took me a couple of years to fully comprehend. This in turn has helped me feel more at home in my body, which has helped me live closer to what I value.

All the practices are by invitation only. Taking what works and leaving the rest behind is always emphasized. For me, this permission created the space I needed to be me! Pelvic breathing, ovarian breathing, and breast massage are added to the hormonal health practice to complete a beautiful preparation for the body to enter into the sensual practices. The warm up isn’t just a warm up! It’s fundamental and these practices allow me to shake off what I don’t want, turn on my parasympathetic nervous system, and bring blood flow and energy to the genitals.

I love that there is a continuous focus on the importance of understanding how the heart, mind, and genitals are connected. In JEM Live, there were so many additional tools given to allow and feel emotions as they happen. These tools also taught me to transform the stuck emotions in my body. It took me many months to fully understand the power of these tools.

I experienced a profound realization that messiness is the expected guest when we approach such a sensitive part of ourselves. The journey for me has consistently been to first choose pleasure and to then have the tools that are needed for healing my sensitive parts show up.

For me, this looks like a messy sequence of pleasure, difficult emotions, the emergence of either a new perspective or new definition, followed by whole-body expansion. It's real, beautiful, and the most enlivening experience of pure natural magic.

module 4

Our Hidden Treasures - Pelvic Anatomy: Preparing Your Jade Egg, Preparing Your Body For Your Essential Jade Egg Practices

my experience

Learning the anatomy of my pelvis from the perspective of pleasure has opened me up to the most extraordinary experience of possibility. For example, by learning my anatomy with a cue to activate that specific part, it created a pleasurable and memorable sensation that led to increased body awareness.

Beginning with the bones, I learned that the positioning of my pelvis matters for pleasure. This started me on a journey of exploring my posture. With practice and playfulness, I’ve found out that it does, indeed, matter a lot!

Additionally, learning how the muscles of the pelvic floor work has helped me stay motivated to care for myself physically.

This is the module where careful preparations are made and the Jade Egg is introduced. Over and over again, the emphasis is on deeply listening to your yesses, maybes, and nos. All the practices can be done without the egg either, instead using a finger, or simply as a meditation.

This attunement has been a journey in my pleasure starved body and I have developed a way of listening to my body that defines and determines the pace at which I approach any experience. The intimate practices are presented with such reverence, warmth and delicacy, ensuring that students only move as fast as their slowest part.

I found that this method of presenting deeply intimate course material helped me stay connected and dedicated, without feeling too confronted. In fact, I've rewatched these videos SO many times!

module 5

Discovering What Your Erotic Fingerprint Is AND The Nerves That Make orgasm possible, Refining previous practices Plus: Additional Jade Egg Practices

my experience

Truly, the self exploration of pleasure and the erotic without imposing anyone else’s ideals are what sets Dr. Saida Désilets apart from other industry experts. Developing a deep understanding of why my pleasure matters, how it influences my life, and how my erotic fingerprint changes over time has been groundbreaking for me.

My erotic fingerprint was highly influenced by magical sex scenes in movies like Top Gun, the importance of keeping my hands above the sheets, staying silent in conflict, and the ultimate necessity of ‘being’ perfect at all times. It was a recipe that guaranteed I would fail at enjoying my sexuality. This module began to help unravel this malleable fingerprint by understanding how mind, heart, and genitals are integrated and inseparable.

Now, instead of following a pre-defined procedure or path that leads to the "peak orgasmic experience", I have learned to be playful, tune into my physical and emotional needs, and allow these messages to guide my erotic journey.

Even though information about the nervous system and how it interacts with all the pleasure pathways can still feel confronting for me, it reminds me that my capacity and experience to feel pleasure is constantly evolving.

Little by little, the concept of relaxed arousal has come to make sense to me. That’s the felt state of deep relaxation while also being profoundly turned on my life itself.

Until eight years ago, I thought of myself as non-orgasmic. Learning the science behind the many pathways to orgasm and learning that it takes time to gradually rewire these pathways has taught me patience.

The more advanced practices are introduced with a rest in between, to allow connection with the heart and also consent. Learning this permission check in has translated to much better communication in partnership. There are oh so many benefits beyond the physical to these practices!

module 6

How We Can Amplify Our Sensuality: Our Voice, Our Orgasm, Deeper Refinement of Previous Practices Plus Seated & Standing Jade Egg Practices

my experience

In Module 6, I gained the perspective that, because my genitals are an inextricable part of me and go  everywhere with me, they are worthy of my attention. Rewiring for a pleasure-attuned body means that any time I experience sensual pleasure, it can be amplified by acknowledging my genitals.

The voice practices have felt intimidating and challenging. Yet, I’ve found consistent practice of sounding both throughout the day and during intimacy to be rewarding in so many ways. Throughout my changing perceptions, these practices have helped me to feel the alluring connection between my genitals and my voice.

Perhaps more powerfully is the revelation that increased comfort with my voice and with self-pleasure translates directly to a greater level of confidence with my husband.

Learning to connect with my voice in erotic experiences has helped me set better boundaries, which has in turn improved relationships with family members and friends. Three years ago, I never would have dreamed of speaking publicly about anything, let alone intimate experiences. And here I am!